Often, we tie memories and experiences in our lives to the things we had during those times. A ticket stub reminds us of our first date with a significant other, maybe an old clothing item that we’ve had since high school. We can have deep emotional connections with the things around us, even if we don’t see them every day. It could be in a junk drawer, or in a box in the basement. It doesn’t matter where it exists, it just matters that when we find it, we feel all the feelings and live that moment again.
Most of the time, if that movie ticket had simply disappeared, we wouldn’t have known it was gone. It wouldn’t be missed and we’d still be the same person with or without it.
Experiences and memories shape us into who we are in this moment. The things we do in the past will always be reflected in our present selves regardless of whether we have the things around that remind us of those actions.
Our memories are built into us, and make us who we are. While we may not remember the exact situation or time that something important may have happened in our lives, the results are within us. We’ve evolved to become the people we are today because of those experiences.
If something brings you great joy when you hold it, you don’t have to get rid of it for the sake of decluttering. If you’re struggling to declutter because you’re afraid to lose a part of yourself or a fond memory along with the item, find a creative way to commemorate it. You may find that it lessens the emotional connection to the thing and increases the connection to the story it represents.
By writing and recording our stories, we’re able to relive them while allowing ourselves to be freed of the physical possession that comes with it.
When I was giving away some favorite old clothing that didn’t fit anymore, I took some pics to remember the items, instead of storing them in our closet taking up valuable space. I find this a really helpful tool to let go of things…If I want to remember it, I’ve got a pic of it. I don’t need to hang on to the item itself to recapture the memory.
I am organizing my digital life now. I worry that I’ll lose track of the photos sometimes. I’m glad that the strategy works for you, Holly. Thanks so much for your comment.
Very well said! A few years ago, I was hooked on nostalgia. I’d dig through old stuff, find some treasure, and, for a fleeting moment, relive (or re-experience) something from my past. I think I relied on nostalgia as a “safe” source of enjoyment.
Later on, after being thrust into dozens of new and exciting experiences, I realized that relying on boring, safe experiences (e.g. nostalgia) doesn’t provide the same level (or perhaps a different quality of) enjoyment.